Have you ever been a victim of someone’s past? Someone miss judged you because of their past? Have someone hated you because you were in a situation with them that was similar to their past? Well, for the past month I have been a victim of this one particular young lady’s past. Man it is the worst experience.
I have heard about this young lady for about two years now but never came in contact with her until a month ago. After speaking with this young lady I realized that she was still stuck in her past, and trying to deal with her present and future issues, which made her really confused and frustrated. She tried to cover up her hurt with a fake smile but I knew deep down she was hurting. It burns my heart to see someone suffering from a bad experience or decision in their past. Therefore, I am always trying to help or encourage individuals to get over their past and live in the present, so they can blossom in their future. But with this young lady trying to help her was a big challenge.
From the moment I opened my mouth and spoke to her, she rejected everything I had to say. Then she falsely accused me of things I did not even do or want to do. It was horrible. It got so bad to the point where sending a greeting was a negative thing to her. She thought I was trying to backstab her, or use her to get things, when all I wanted to do was to help. I don’t want any thing from her; neither do I desire to hurt her in anyway. I guess being a Good Samaritan sometimes can have its down fall.
She was hurt in her past by someone she truly loved and a female she trusted. She has become very judgmental towards females. She thinks they are all trying to hurt her again. Talk about living in your past too long.
The bad thing about this situation is that she denies the fact that she hasn’t forgiven herself and the other people involved. She denies it to the teeth. Trying to show her the truth is hardball.
Then the last thing she did that totally got to me, was telling me I was a liar. I was in prayer one day and the Lord showed me some of the things she had been through and the things she is going through right now, so I told her about it. Her response was, “it’s a lie and God did not tell you anything.” It was like she smacked me in the face. She is not open to me and when I got the message I was shock to know that she was going through so much in her life and wanted to let her know what the Lord showed me. But I guess she didn’t see it that way. Man was I discourage. I told myself out of anger that I was never going to talk to her again as long as I live. I will keep my distance for now because I don’t like to be around negative people. But I will continue to pray for her every day.
Being a victim of someone’s past allowed me to sit back and think if I was making someone suffer because of my past. Yes, I did find some areas in my life where I was stuck in the past and made every guy suffer because of what one man did to me. I also, saw that I had a tendency to push females away because of my past. I am sure those people who were victims of my past, felt the same way I feel right now. Because I went through such bad relationships with guys, I lost trust for every male I meet. To me they were all cheaters, liars, and jerks capable of doing the same thing to me again. But that is not true; there are a lot of men out there that are the total opposite.
The same thing goes with the bad experiences I have with females. I have been through a lot in my past with females, who were backstabbers, liars, fake and just down dirty. With all that hurt and pain I had to endure for years, it caused me to stay away from females totally. I never had a desire to have a female friend. I didn’t want to associate with them at all because I was afraid they were going to treat me like the females in my past.
As you can see from this situation, 98% of us are victims of someone’s past and 98% of us mistreat others because of our bad past experiences. There are some people who are able to go through things and move on, but the majority of us have a hard time moving on. We try to hold on to it for a very long time, not knowing that it is only destroying us and the people around us. Holding on to our past can endure us from receiving blessings in life and having a prosperous future.
The last point I would like to add is that even though we will have to deal with people who hold on to their past and make you suffer for it, remember what Matthew 5:44 says, “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you,”.
You may not be able to change an individual but you can change the way it affects you, by living the word of God. If we all were to respond negatively to these situations, imagine how stress our life would be. We go through these situations everyday at work, at home, driving in our cars, with friends, with family, with church members, just to name a few. At work if someone had a bad morning, the individual normally makes every one in the office suffer. That is not fair, but it happens.
The one thing I want you to take away from this entry is to let go of your past and try not to make others suffer for the things you have been through. We are all humans we makes mistakes and sometimes have to face hardship in our lives but please don’t let someone face a hardship you could avoid. This message was not only to you but also to me. Writing this entry allowed me to see the things I need to work on in my life and the things I need to let go.
I have heard about this young lady for about two years now but never came in contact with her until a month ago. After speaking with this young lady I realized that she was still stuck in her past, and trying to deal with her present and future issues, which made her really confused and frustrated. She tried to cover up her hurt with a fake smile but I knew deep down she was hurting. It burns my heart to see someone suffering from a bad experience or decision in their past. Therefore, I am always trying to help or encourage individuals to get over their past and live in the present, so they can blossom in their future. But with this young lady trying to help her was a big challenge.
From the moment I opened my mouth and spoke to her, she rejected everything I had to say. Then she falsely accused me of things I did not even do or want to do. It was horrible. It got so bad to the point where sending a greeting was a negative thing to her. She thought I was trying to backstab her, or use her to get things, when all I wanted to do was to help. I don’t want any thing from her; neither do I desire to hurt her in anyway. I guess being a Good Samaritan sometimes can have its down fall.
She was hurt in her past by someone she truly loved and a female she trusted. She has become very judgmental towards females. She thinks they are all trying to hurt her again. Talk about living in your past too long.
The bad thing about this situation is that she denies the fact that she hasn’t forgiven herself and the other people involved. She denies it to the teeth. Trying to show her the truth is hardball.
Then the last thing she did that totally got to me, was telling me I was a liar. I was in prayer one day and the Lord showed me some of the things she had been through and the things she is going through right now, so I told her about it. Her response was, “it’s a lie and God did not tell you anything.” It was like she smacked me in the face. She is not open to me and when I got the message I was shock to know that she was going through so much in her life and wanted to let her know what the Lord showed me. But I guess she didn’t see it that way. Man was I discourage. I told myself out of anger that I was never going to talk to her again as long as I live. I will keep my distance for now because I don’t like to be around negative people. But I will continue to pray for her every day.
Being a victim of someone’s past allowed me to sit back and think if I was making someone suffer because of my past. Yes, I did find some areas in my life where I was stuck in the past and made every guy suffer because of what one man did to me. I also, saw that I had a tendency to push females away because of my past. I am sure those people who were victims of my past, felt the same way I feel right now. Because I went through such bad relationships with guys, I lost trust for every male I meet. To me they were all cheaters, liars, and jerks capable of doing the same thing to me again. But that is not true; there are a lot of men out there that are the total opposite.
The same thing goes with the bad experiences I have with females. I have been through a lot in my past with females, who were backstabbers, liars, fake and just down dirty. With all that hurt and pain I had to endure for years, it caused me to stay away from females totally. I never had a desire to have a female friend. I didn’t want to associate with them at all because I was afraid they were going to treat me like the females in my past.
As you can see from this situation, 98% of us are victims of someone’s past and 98% of us mistreat others because of our bad past experiences. There are some people who are able to go through things and move on, but the majority of us have a hard time moving on. We try to hold on to it for a very long time, not knowing that it is only destroying us and the people around us. Holding on to our past can endure us from receiving blessings in life and having a prosperous future.
The last point I would like to add is that even though we will have to deal with people who hold on to their past and make you suffer for it, remember what Matthew 5:44 says, “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you,”.
You may not be able to change an individual but you can change the way it affects you, by living the word of God. If we all were to respond negatively to these situations, imagine how stress our life would be. We go through these situations everyday at work, at home, driving in our cars, with friends, with family, with church members, just to name a few. At work if someone had a bad morning, the individual normally makes every one in the office suffer. That is not fair, but it happens.
The one thing I want you to take away from this entry is to let go of your past and try not to make others suffer for the things you have been through. We are all humans we makes mistakes and sometimes have to face hardship in our lives but please don’t let someone face a hardship you could avoid. This message was not only to you but also to me. Writing this entry allowed me to see the things I need to work on in my life and the things I need to let go.
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